On Your Side
Some people looking for love online are getting scammed instead
MILWAUKEE - Cindy Mich of Glendale is a busy lady. She has 4 kids, and several jobs--including her own internet radio talk show.
She does it all on her own, after getting divorced several years ago.
"I think women who are strong and successful have to protect what they've earned, and worked for," Cindy says. With her hectic schedule, she decided to give online dating a try a few years ago. "I was skeptical because of the danger element involved, you're not quite sure who you're gonna meet," she explains. She says some dates went well, others, not so much. "A lot of people will post a particular picture, having them present themselves a certain way, then you meet them, and not only physically are they not looking the way their supposed to." It's often more serious than just lying about putting on a few extra pounds. There are scammers out there creating fake online profiles to prey on the vulnerable. Psychiatrist Clark Smith explains, "It might be somebody who just wants to take power over somebody to control their lives to humiliate them." Many are calling them 'Catfish' scams. It's an issue in the headlines lately, after Notre Dame football player Manti Te'o fell prey to an online hoax. A scammer got Te'o to fall for a fake girlfriend. "It's a humiliation that's going to be a blow to his self esteem. He may never get over it," Dr. Smith says. To top it off, many of these scammers are also after money. "I don't like to be used for my business," Cindy says. Cindy says she went on a date with a man she met online who was only trying to get free air-time on her radio show. She recalls, "Towards the end of the date of course it became, 'Well, I need you to know, part of us going out and spending time together is I want to get to know more about your show." Cindy did the right thing--she cut ties instantly. Clay Wible is a Supervisory Special Agent with the Milwaukee Division of the FBI. He says many local complaints revolve around online daters who are communicating with someone who is supposedly overseas. "At some point in the relationship, the person that claims to be overseas says they want to travel to the U.S. to meet the person that put the profile up, the victim, but they need additional funds to make that trip," Wible explains. The online daters send the money, and the scammers often get away with their money and their hearts. "It's very difficult to take a step back and analyze a situation, 'Am I being scammed?'" Wible points out. Online dating sites do have disclaimers and warnings about this type of fraud. For example, 'match.com' has online safety tips including: 'Protect Your Finances' 'Plenty of Fish's' website has a 'Terms Of Use' agreement, including a section that states: You are solely responsible for your interactions with other members.
You understand that pof.com currently does not conduct criminal background checks on its members.
Cindy says she will continue to be careful, but she isn't giving up on love. "My Prince Charming is somewhere, he just hasn't showed up at my door yet."
However, she might give up the online dating thing for awhile. "I think for now I might just wait for someone to come to me, I'm not gonna do anymore chasing," she says. If you think you're in the middle of an online dating scam don't be ashamed--call police!

















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